To my Cysters

3 years ago, I was at the gym, trying to furiously work off the weight that I’d been gaining, but to no avail, could not lose. I ate all the right things, drank zero calories, but I couldn’t lose the weight. So, I went to the gym regularly to try to get skinny. This particular […]

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Grieving as a Single Parent in Youth Ministry

Early in February, I volunteered to write a blog post for this month — Women in Youth Ministry Month.  Since that day, I have started and restarted writing this post no less than 50 times.  My topic? Grieving / navigating youth ministry as a single parent. Not exactly what I thought I would be writing […]

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You Need Better Soft Skills

I was a tomboy with sparkly shoes. Since I was a little girl, I never really fit in anywhere. I loved nail polish and climbing trees. When I was about 9 years old I pushed my cousin out of a tree. He broke his arm and cried like a baby. I didn’t feel sorry for […]

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About that call…

Conferences were a staple of my first several years in ministry. You know the kind- bright lights, fog (is fog a thing anymore?), everyone is really amped up about life and Jesus and ministry. And at these gatherings, specifically for those of us in youth ministry, the message was as loud as the chorus of […]

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Seminary Survival Guide

I’m a graduate student in seminary. And it’s hard.  Can I get an Amen? To my fellow se(wo)menarians, (See what I did there?) here are my words for you (and maybe for myself, because I need to hear it too): First, you are doing great. Remember last week when you went to that student’s piano […]

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LGBTQ & in Youth Ministry

Faith and sexuality are taboo topics, especially when combined. There are so many opinions, arguments and even more questions. All of this results in anger, hurt, frustration and disunity. Anger, hurt and frustration for the conservative believer, for the affirming believer and for the LGBTQ community. And, anger, hurt and frustration for people like me- […]

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You are Not Second Pick

I have been in some sort of youth ministry capacity for 14 years. From volunteer to staff, most of which at the same church. Through those years I had a fluctuation of feelings towards being a woman in youth ministry. Sometimes, under the right leadership, I felt no different. My early years of being a […]

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