Pay it Forward

Have you ever felt like a unicorn?  That’s a weird statement, but oftentimes, as women in ministry, that is what we are treated as. I have been to many an event where I look around and see many men in the room and very little women who I can connect with ministry-wise. I have spent […]

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No More Apologies.

It’s our last day of “Women in Youth Ministry Month,” and I want to take today to share something I’ve been working through for the last month or so. Last month I went to the FIERCE Conference, a gathering of mostly United Methodist Female pastors (and some strays, like me. #unordained). The gathering included the […]

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I’m just… Different

“I have no where to put that.” I said to our creative director ten minutes before the service started. I had carefully crafted my outfit to hide the growing baby bump, but I had failed to consider the mic pack. “Just clip it to your waistband.” Sure. They looked like jeans, but they were not. […]

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I’m not Coming to Your Conference

I’m not coming to your conference if there aren’t women on the platform. I’m not coming to your conference if there aren’t people of color teaching and not just entertaining. There. I said it. I said what my spirit has been screaming for all 20 years of ministry I’ve walked in. If your conference does […]

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My Journey to an affirming denomination

My College professor told us in my first ministry class, “If you can do anything else and be happy, do it.” I have used that question as a gauge throughout many years working in small churches, large churches, rural churches, city churches. When Ministry became very hard and I wanted to quit, it was this […]

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When it’s time to say goodbye.

Since my first taste of youth ministry back in 2001 as a volunteer with middle school youth, I have had only one passion and felt only one call in my life. That call was to be a youth minister. After finishing college, I proceeded directly to seminary where I interned at a church in their […]

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Fight for Maternity Leave

I’ve got three kids. Three kids is SO MANY KIDS. (I know that there are many serving in ministry who have more kids. And you are amazing. Look:.  you’re amazing if you have one. Or two. Or nine. Or none. Let’s just agree everyone is amazing, unless they actively undergird the systems and policies that […]

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To my Cysters

3 years ago, I was at the gym, trying to furiously work off the weight that I’d been gaining, but to no avail, could not lose. I ate all the right things, drank zero calories, but I couldn’t lose the weight. So, I went to the gym regularly to try to get skinny. This particular […]

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